Friendship Musings

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Within the last month or so, I had an interesting discussion with a few people on friendships. I mentioned that I have a few friends I’ve known since as early as kindergarten. One friend, who was a military brat, moved around a lot, found that concept to be an amazing thing. Another, who wasn’t a military brat, but moved a few times, expressed nearly the same thing.

For me, I grew up in a military environment, but I was the one who stayed in one location while everyone else practically came and went around me. With that said, I guess it is pretty interesting to maintain friendships with someone for a long time. But I think about a friend I’ve known since kindergarten, two more in first grade, and several I made in high school and college years . . . and I wonder if such a concept of knowing somebody that long is that foreign? To me it’s not really a foreign concept since I am in that situation, but I can imagine others believing otherwise.

Another thing I noticed about friendships is that sometimes the friends you do make in your early years are the ones who you maintain a deeper relationship compared to someone you only knew for a bit. Now that can be different, depending on the individuals, but for me, that’s the case. I feel more closer to the friends I’ve made in my early years than in college and afterwards. I think one big reason is because we can reminisce our school days, whether it’s about this one teacher we liked or the events we went through together to share that camaraderie.

What do you guys think? Do you guys have friends you’ve known for a real long time, practically your whole life? Do you feel a deeper connection with the ones from your earlier years than your later years?

Comments

  1. I think it really depends. I have a really close group of friends right now. Half of them I knew since I was really young, and some of them I’ve met in the last couple years.

  2. Amanda on

    My best friend is someone I’ve only recently gotten to know – and before them, I’d easily say that my cousin was the person I was closest to. I have a wide circle of acquaintances, but am very rarely actually CLOSE CLOSE to any of them.

  3. Nah I don’t think that. I only have one friend from primary school and she was terribly manipulative and a terrible friend, now she’s matured but we’re nothing more than acquaintances. I only met my best friends in my senior grades.

    I think ‘quality not quantity’ definitely applies for friendships in terms of times spent. There’s no point having spent heaps of time together doing nothing compared to spending lots of time together having actually done something meaningful. I don’t know if that makes sense but it does in my head lol!

    Lastly off topic: thanks so much for still checking my blog despite my shocking FOUR MONTH disappearance. It really surprised me, i’ll definitely try to keep up my end of the bargain by posting again!

  4. Thanks for the hosting offer Tara but I don’t want to be hosted and randomly disappear for another half a year which I know will happen… so yeah… thanks a lot though. I am happy drawing pretty pictures for headers haha.

  5. Cynthia on

    I was a military brat … even though after my dad left Korea with me and mum, he retired, but we still moved around a bit. It’s really kind of foreign to have friends from my childhood (I only found one so far) and we don’t have any kind of a deep relationship anymore.

    I feel a much deeper relationship with my current friends than ones from the earlier years.

  6. Felisa on

    Hmmm I don’t know.. I think it really depends on each individual. I’ve met my bestest friends all in the last 5 years or so. I can’t imagine life without them. My “best friends” from my early childhood? We’re all just facebook friends but we never even talk…

  7. Hey, I think I was the second person. :P I think that before people moved around a lot and before technology allowed people to have more superficial relationships instead of deeper ones it was common to only know the people you grew up with your entire life. But in this new age where people move around a lot and have trouble maintaining deep relationships (http://www.cracked.com/article_15231_7-reasons-21st-century-making-you-miserable.html), it’s sort of a rarity. Sort of. Anyway, I think it’s such a cool thing that you still have friends from so long ago. I WISH I had them.

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